Marriage

I remember the first time Luke told me he didn't believe in soul mates.

We were in college, dating, and it was like he stuck a knife directly through my heart.

Well, maybe not quite that dramatic, but I'm dramatic so let's stick with it.

Knife. Through. The. Heart.

HOW could he not believe in soul mates?

I mean all of the movies tell us to find our soul mates, the majority of the Christian culture tells us our soul mate is out there and every song on the radio references a soul mate in some way.

SOUL MATES ARE REAL!!!!!

Of course he gave me his reasons as to why he doesn't think that soul mates were real (blah blah). I pretended to listen but really just thought he was a crazy, heartless man.

Several years later I married that crazy, heartless man. He still didn't believe in soul mates and I didn't care. It was time to get married.

We've now been married for three years and we still joke about our difference of opinion in this particular matter.

We went to a marriage conference this weekend and listened to many wise speakers talk about marriage and the up, downs, and in betweens that entail a marriage.

The whole weekend I couldn't help but think of how lucky I am that I am able to call Luke my husband. Going into marriage we had many, I stress, MANY differences, we are about as night and day as a married couple could get, but we loved each other and we had our love for Christ in common and for us, it was all that mattered.

(Us this weekend on our way to the marriage conference)

Marriage is not easy, just with anything in life we go through valleys and peaks. There will be times that I think "man, we've really got this marriage thing DOWN".

And then there will be times where it is hard. Arguments come easier, emotions are more sensitive and nerves are frazzled, those are the times when we learn what being married is really all about.

Each season of life we learn how to move through the leaps and bounds. Adding a baby to the mix wasn't the smoothest transition but we are learning how important communication is. We try and set aside time for us, even if it is watching a movie together after Eli has gone to sleep. Or making a specific effort to sit at the dinner table and talk about our day, no TV's or computer.

Marriage is fun, hard, exciting, mundane, comical and sometimes even easy at times. But through it all I know that there is nobody else I would want to walk through life with. Luke is such a Godly man and does an incredible job of leading our family. He has taught me so much in the time that I've known him and is constantly challenging me and helping me grow in every way.

He knows just how to push my buttons and when I act annoyed I'm really cracking up inside and I know that when I'm watching Real Housewives and he is reading next to me, he is secretly peaking over the book fully engrossed in the drama that I know and love so much.

I'm so thankful I married my soul mate. Even if he doesn't think I'm his.