I heard this SO many times before Eli arrived, in fact I heard it many times before I was even pregnant, I heard it so much that it started to get really annoying.
But it is totally true. Once that baby enters your life everything is completely different.
Despite the fact that everything is different I feel like Luke and I are adjusting pretty well.
Those first few weeks were hard, I was crying A LOT and Luke wanted to know why I was crying. When he would ask why I was crying so much I would say " I doooooon'tttttt knooooooowwww" in between lots of sobs and tears. He wouldn't understand how I could be crying and crying but not know WHY I was crying and crying.
It was hard, almost impossible to explain to him that I didn't know why I was crying either but my body was revolting against me.
And on the same hand I didn't understand how Luke didn't instinctively know how to fold up a dirty diaper as tiny as possible to make sure that no smell leaked out.
I have given him MANY tutorials on how to fold a diaper. And I don't even know how I know how to fold a diaper. It just came naturally.
We are almost 3 months in and while there have been some bumps along the road, for the most part we have adapted pretty well to this new parents thing.
We still go out to eat, although it does take planning around feedings. I have learned to always have a diaper bag ready to go, full of extra outfits, socks, my hooter hider, a blanket, and LOTS of diapers and wipes.
We still have quiet time together, we still have fun together, still laugh together and still argue together.
We've had our disagreements about various baby things, we've learned together and fell in love with our baby boy together.
We definitely weren't expecting this season of our life at this time, but as always God knows what is best for us and it has all fit together like a puzzle.
I say all of this because when that newborn baby first came into our lives a short couple of months ago I wasn't sure if we would ever be "us" again.
And we are definitely us. In fact the other day we had a wonderful conversation in true "Tree" fashion.
I asked Luke what the most beautiful thing was that he had even seen.
CLEARLY it was a loaded question, I thought FOR SURE he would said the most beautiful thing he had ever seen was his wife carrying his child for 9 long months, enduring heartburn, headaches, nausea and WEIGHT GAIN, all leading up to the birth of this beautiful baby that had grown in his her belly, starting as a tiny tadpole and growing into a real live human.
I mean obviously that should be the most beautiful thing he has ever seen.
I was waiting for his sweet, tear jerking response, as he thought about it, when he looked at me and said, "probably a valley in New Mexico I once saw while standing at the top of a mountain."
He was completely serious.
Of course I questioned him, thinking maybe he just wasn't thinking clearly and had somehow forgot about watching a HUMAN come out of my body, but no, he remembered that event, he just thought that valley was really amazing.
We are definitely still us.
So all of this to say, yes having a baby changes your life completely, but for every person it is different. It's all about figuring it out and growing during this time. And learning. You learn a lot during these early days.
For instance I learned that for some people, a valley in New Mexico trumps a pushing a baby out of your body.
News to me.